“You’re not very feminine are you?”
“What…you don’t like pink?!”
“Girls don’t do that…”
So…what makes me a woman? Let’s find out.
In primary school us girlies had mixed personalities. Loud and quiet. Those who liked reading but also liked to play outside. Those who wore skirts but you’d still find them wearing trainers with them! I personally liked wearing trousers and trainers. I remember the SHOCK when the boys saw me in a skirt for the first time…as if they only realised I was a girl when I wore one?!
Secondary school was different as I attended a girl’s only school. There was no confusion. We were ALL ladies there – school rules. Even there though, I thought to myself “am I girly enough?”…”what do I need to do/wear as I get older?” So as one does as clueless and curious teenager, you follow trends and see what works for you. I think I only had peace with my style of dressing and appearance at age 16/17 to be honest.
I battled with low self-esteem due to the eczema on my skin, the size of my breasts and my lack of voluptuous curves. It took me a while to acknowledge and accept that God made no mistake with creating me. I should celebrate the body I came in and being a woman is not defined by these physical features alone. It certainly is a journey and I’m still learning! But one thing I know going forward in life, is that I am womanly in my own unique way. There is no other woman like me on earth, I will not compare or compete because that is futile but rather I will be the beautiful, bubbly and bold woman I was created to be.
The world’s view of a woman:
- Being super emotional and not able to make rational decisions
- Ability to produce children
- Loves and always wears make-up
- Had big breasts and wide hips
- A pretty face
- High-pitched voice
- Not too muscular
- Like to wear skin-tight dresses
- Our beauty depends on the number of likes, shares or retweets we receive!
- My emotional strength: ability to control and express my emotions in different circumstances
- Multi-tasker: I am not limited to one activity but can co-ordinate many this also relates to being a mother – wife – friend-daughter all at once!
- Ability to read body language: my ability to know how someone feels by looking into their eyes alone
- Caring nature: simply caring for those I’m not related to and not
- Diplomacy: using my words for a mutual benefit
- Influence: my behaviour and words can influence others
- Whether I’m wearing trousers or a dress – I still LOOK GOOD!
- Whether I wear make-up or not – I AM STILL GORGEOUS
- Whether my breasts and bum show or not – I AM STILL FEARFULLY AND WONDERFULLY MADE
My perspective of myself as a woman is not influenced by people or the media but a truth I have hidden in the depths of my heart. Unreachable. Unshakeable. You see… beauty is fleeting, trends change but the character of a woman outlives all of these things. As a woman, know that you are unique and you bring life in a way that only YOU can do – so go forth and be the remarkable woman I know you can be!