So the “F” word I’m pertaining to is FORGIVENESS. Yes that fuzzy word that warms everyone’s heart so much! In this blog I’m just going to share 8 life-changing lessons that I have learnt about forgiveness, I hope it challenges and transforms your mind-set as it did mine!
1. Difficult: whoever says forgiving EVERYONE for ANYTHING they have done is easy, well I would question that! It certainly isn’t an easy choice to make but it is a necessary one. As Nicholas Sparks said, “nothing that’s worthwhile is ever easy. Remember that.” Forgiving people is a worthwhile habit to invest in for life!
2. A process: As humans we have been bestowed with a plethora of emotions, sometimes too much to handle! As a result of this, we need more time to process certain situations/offences which can slow us down on the road to forgiveness. Be patient with yourself, forgiveness is a step by step process.
3. A conscious choice: I alluded to this in the first point but yeah…forgiveness is a choice you have to make rather than “feeling like it”. You can choose to forgive a person; it is your decision…the power is in your hands as Paddy Mcguinness would say.
4. A remedy: The heart is a delicate organ and it can get clogged up by poor diet, lack of exercise but also unhealthy emotions. Emotions like bitterness and anger. Forgiveness is a resolution, it lifts the burden and frees up your mind and releases your heart from captivity.
5. A breath of fresh air: In Greek, the word forgiveness is “aphesis” which translates as “release” or “dismissal”. When we forgive we not only release that person but ourselves, we unburden ourselves and exhale the issue from our system and choose reconciliation going forward.
6. A sign of strength: Some may consider forgiveness as a sign of weakness or choosing the “easy” option. I would beg to differ. Forgiveness is a sign of fortitude. It involves rising above the heartache, tears and pain and saying I am choosing to release you. To let this situation go. It also says “you no longer have power over me or my life”. No More.
7. A reminder that we are imperfect: This is such a crucial point because you may be angry at another imperfect person, forgetting that you also are imperfect and prone to making mistakes. And that is where grace comes in, a word often used by Christians – describing “unmerited favour” towards others reflecting what God showed to us through Jesus Christ.
8. A sign you have moved on: And finally forgiveness is a sign you are ready to move on from that person and that season of your life. A sign you are ready to start a new chapter!
So that’s it! I hope these reflective points have helped you in some way and I have included 3 famous quotes about forgiveness to ponder over – coz you special!
“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive, is devoid of the power to love. There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.” Martin Luther King
“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.” Mary Angelou
“Forgiveness is about empowering yourself, rather than empowering your past.” T.D. Jakes