Imma,Imma,Imma…I’m a flirt


So for anyone who is a R Kelly fan …you would know this song was a BIG hit, released in 2007 but 10yrs later is still hyping people up! So where am I going with this…there is always a direction with my writing – honest! I’m going to talk about taking responsibility over your words, body and mind. DEEEEEEEEEEEEEPPPP. OK let’s go.

So what does it mean to be “flirtatious”? Well the Oxford Dictionaries says, “Behaving in such a way as to suggest a playful sexual attraction to someone.” One may ask, “What is the harm? It’s just some innocent fun!” Au contraire my friend and hopefully by the end of the blog post, you’ll understand why. Let’s break it down; when people flirt there is a motive – to attract, to tease, and to play around…and to pull! And of course, in most circumstances the recipient will flirt back. Ok cool. Now this is where the problem can enter…what happens when one party flirts for fun while the other flirts believing that you are expressing an ‘intentional’ interest in them? Unless communicated otherwise, the person responding to your flirtation has no other reason than to believe you are interested in them (and them alone…). With a guy, he may ask you out or worse try to make a move on you! While with a girl, she may think she has found BAE and believe you guys will progress to the next step!

So what is my point?

A person may say “Oh it’s in my nature, I can’t help acting sexy” or “…being flirtatious never hurt anybody”. However I’m going to list some points to make you reflect a bit on this, take what you want from it – just food for thought! During a flirtatious interaction, one party will eventually desire more than just flirting

  1. When the flirting period fizzles out, one party could be left hurt, confused and even angry. But… “I thought he/she liked me”…”we were speaking/flirting for a week”.
  2. Your integrity could be questioned – “Oh, she/he is such a flirt, I wouldn’t take them seriously”
  3. If you do decide to flirt…limit it to ONE person! Otherwise it will cause problems.
  4. You may be avoided! “Yo! Hide wifey/hubby…this dude/dudette is a major FLIRT!” That reputation could make friends/acquaintances reluctant to introduce people to you.
  5. When flirting, do you consider “What next?”… “What happens when the flirting succeeds…What do I want from this person? AND “Am I and this other person on the same page – in agreement?”

So in summary, I understand why people flirt… heck I’m sure I may have flirted without even realising! However my point is there is a limit. Understand that you are dealing with real people and real human emotions; treat that person with respect and dignity. If you know that you’re not interested…just passing time – then stop/limit the flirtation. It’s not fair plus you could be blocking someone else who really IS serious about that person. So please, take responsibility over your words and body, don’t let short-term satisfaction create unnecessary long-term bitterness/resentment for another person.

“Do to others as you would have them do to you.” Luke 6:31

Peace N Love  ♥

14 thoughts on “Imma,Imma,Imma…I’m a flirt

  1. And with this particular post, you may just have solved an enigma I’ve been trying to solve for over a month and a half


  2. I seriously agree with the line “when people flirt there is a motive – to attract, to tease, and to play around..”
    My motive is always to attract and be a friend. Thanks for the post…


  3. Before I got married I was definitely a flirt, although I never really realised it until a male friend tried it on with me and told me I had been flirting with him for months! I think sometimes it can be in your nature and people misread the signs, but then at the same time we should all be mindful of that!


  4. Really great post. Something to think about when you are interacting with someone and may be a bit too flirtatious.


  5. Thank god someone said it, flirting can be harmful, especially if you are doing it for fun but the other person actually likes you. I had this happen to me and I thought that the guy was really into me but obviously not. Its a shame x


  6. I’m super shy when it comes to flirting! When I met my husband I had to be sure he was interested in me before I’d do more than bat an eye. Too cute .. now I flirt with him all of the time!


  7. You are right. Never flirt with someone who is of a serious nature.No one likes anyone playing with their emotions..This is an important post for all the beautiful ladies out there:)


  8. I think flirting is a kind of a courtship ritual. But I agree with you. It should be left to one person at a time. And you should have a definite goal in mind or someone will only end up upset in the end.


  9. This article speaks truth! Flirting can be very dangerous and so many people take it for granted. Thank you for sharing this. We all need to hear it.

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  10. I think flirting is fun when you’re out in town, or at a party. But it should never happen with people you already know for some time, or with friends. That is giving them false hopes and playing with their emotions, which is terrible.

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