I remember when I was in secondary school, around 13-15 years old and there were some girls that I would really admire…to the extent that I would want to change my dressing, way of speaking and behaviour in order to emulate them. Be a reflection of them. At the time it seemed harmless but now I’ve grown a little wiser and confident, I see how damaging it was to my self-esteem and self-identity. You see, it is not a bad thing to admire and celebrate someone due to their gift, physical beauty, dressing etc but when you seek to change yourself or start to resent yourself as a result – the line has been crossed.
In the bible (Psalm 139:14 to be precise…) it says we are “…fearfully and wonderfully made.” When we were created, God was full of reverence and respect for us but also with the intention to make us unique individuals with a specific purpose. A lot of thought and care went into our making…so many humans…yet our DNA is different (except for mono zygotic twins…there are ways still…but i won’t get into that!). The diversity seen across the human species shows how beauty/talent can be expressed in many forms. Beauty is not an absolute term. Let us learn to celebrate what we have because if we don’t – who will?
“I’m still learning to love the parts of myself that no one claps for.” Rudy Francisco
In this century we are subliminally convinced into believing that we (boys/girls and men/women) must look/behave/think in a particular way and if you don’t? Then you’re queer, weird or a freak. This mentality is wrong. We need to learn to be content in ourselves, how we were made and try to live the best way we can with what we have been given. It’s so sad when young girls of 14 contemplate breast enhancement, bum implants or eye laser surgery OR guys get excessively concerned about their penis size, height or muscle density out of peer pressure to look “cool” or “beautiful” in the eyes of their peers.
“Always be a first rate version of yourself and not a second rate version of someone else.” – Judy garland.
My encouragement to you all today is:
- Celebrate your strengths/gifts/beauty every day.
- Celebrate other people’s strengths/gifts/beauty without allowing it to destabilize your self-confidence.
- Know that you are not perfect but our imperfections make us authentic and sets us apart from the rest!
- Never allow yourself or others to question your worth – you are one of a kind and if you didn’t exist, the people of the present and future would be missing out – BIG TIME.
“Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.” 19th Century Poet Oscar Wilde
You see, “All people are like grass, and all their glory is like the flowers of the field; the grass withers and the flowers fall,” (1 peter 1:24). This life will end one day – will people be left with a memory of YOU or a shadow of somebody else?