Sisterly and solidarity are not said together as often as I would like tbh.
“Sisterly” – in the manner of a sister.
“Solidarity” – unity of feeling or action, especially among individuals with a common interest; mutual support within a group.
Remember these definitions as you read this blog.
There are various examples of sisterly solidarity, which I will now share. Firstly we have a lady in the bible called Ruth who lost her husband, father-in-law and brother-in-law. She was then left to live with her mother-in-law Naomi and sister-in-law however the sister-in-law soon left after Naomi urged to return to her own mother’s house and try to re-marry. However here is the twist, even when Naomi strongly urged Ruth to leave her and basically get on with her life she simply said “do not urge me to leave you or turn back from following you; for wherever you go, I will go, and where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God. Where you die, I will die, and there I will be buried.” Ruth 1:15-17. Well, they ended up moving to a new town where Ruth did get married to a very rich man and Naomi was right beside her to celebrate. They shared in each other’s joy.
Wow. Talk about stubborn eh? Ruth was sticking to Naomi like glue. Ruth through her words had joined herself to Naomi, the journey they started together they would finish. She was showing support for Naomi in honour of their relationship.
Secondly we have Race for Life! Everyone knows when Race for Life is on…as we see women of all ages in their pink tutus, with military paint on their face and t-shirts saying “we WILL beat cancer!” This may seem like an obvious and simple example but it is truly amazing how many women of different races, ages, faiths and social statuses unite together to fundraise for cancer research. Despite the observable differences, there is still one big common factor which supersedes it – they have ALL lost someone to or suffered from cancer. The social cohesion and harmony seen amongst women on this day is truly beautiful.
And finally there was also the Women’s Movement. Yes, there’s a little bit of politics…just a little bit. I will not mention D.T for the sake of sanity. In time period of the 19th and early 20th century, there was a movement named “first-wave feminism” which had a central focus on women’s suffrage (the right to vote) and overturning legal obstacles to gender equality. The “second-wave feminism” followed on in the 1960’s, first in the US and eventually throughout the Western world and beyond! This second-wave feminism broadened the movement past just legal obstacles but to other issues women faced such as: sexuality, family, the workplace, reproductive rights and official legal inequalities. Furthermore, they addressed issues of domestic violence, marital rape issues and changes in custody and divorce law, just to name a few. Many women involved but one voice, for one common purpose.
These 3 simple examples just emphasise what can be done when women unite together. Alone we make ripples but together we make waves. Like Ruth, let us know when to uplift and carry another woman; like the women in Race4Life, let us comfort and share one another’s burden; and finally like the women’s movement, let us unite and fight for what we are passionate about. Here are ways we could show more sisterly solidarity:-
Reflect yourself and not others
As a woman, know who you are and bring what you have to bring to the table. Try (make every effort) not to be a reflection of someone else as you will fail. We each have our own DNA…our own blueprint; instead be yourself and complement others with your characteristics. Once women embrace who they are fully, they will stop trying to emulate others and instead celebrate them.
Build and don’t destroy
Back-biting is a seed of destruction; we should wash our hands of it completely. Constantly women are tearing each other apart with their words and actions to some extent but mainly words (verbal and written). In a world where we are encouraged to “top trump” one another and “compare.com,” it is tempting to want to downgrade another, to upgrade ourselves. Dethrone one queen to steal the crown and glory however we forget – we are ALL queens. Daughters of the Most High God and King. Our words can be seeds of encouragement into the hearts of fellow women, empowering them and breaking chains.
Sow and Reap
In our lives we have a time to sow and a time to reap. We sow, when we choose to mentor/guide/advice young girls or girls our age based on our experiences and expertise. When we choose to share and not withhold information, when we choose to serve others and not ourselves. Then we reap when we see these women blossom as a result of our actions but we also reap when other women our age or older share their wisdom and expertise with us. It is a cycle – we choose whether it is vicious or not.
In summary, life is actually too short and the world is already dark and cruel so let us as women show more sisterly solidarity. Our actions towards one another should have the look of daisy chains but the strength of iron– uniting us as the sisters we are.